Wednesday, August 20, 2014

On Married Love by Candida Lycett Green

And then after my slightly cynical bouncing ball theory of marriage, there's this lovely piece by Candida Lycett Green, who died today.

The entire piece is here at her website.

18 comments:

Katherine C. James said...

Extraordinary. Beautiful. Yes: "When you are fresh in love, how can you know for absolute certain that this person you feel utterly at home with and want to spend the rest of your life with will not, at some later stage, try and control your life, turn nasty, abandon you or all three? How do you know for certain that your own feelings will not shift? The answer is you can’t know. If a marriage works, it’s down to luck, timing and effort."

Anonymous said...

Perhaps it would be more appropriate to post link to Candida's website rather than reproducing article without permission? From a friend of Candida's.

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